The word forgiveness has a couple of definitions and can often be challenging to incorporate into our lives. Personally, the journey of forgiveness and self-forgiveness has been turbulent, and forgiveness never healed me instantly. Also, forgiveness is something I had had to deliberately practice over the past couple of years, especially when past resentment, irritation, anger, and frustration emerged. The most significant part of forgiveness is that it helped me move on from the past and start a healthier life. Please acknowledge that I wrote healthier life and not good because the concept of a good life is bullshit. Nevertheless, the battle between resentment and forgiveness is still prevalent, which I have realised is something I have to choose between for the rest of my life.
Personally, forgiveness means letting go of resentments and thoughts of revenge, which is a lot more challenging in reality. Mainly, most of us are told that forgiveness often delivers more peace of mind and, to an extent, other positive emotions. Additionally, forgiveness can be an effective medicine for previous emotional wounds and contribute to healing these wounds. On the other hand, forgiveness does not mean we forget the pain that other people have caused, but forgiveness always lessens the hurt and liberates us from the pain caused by others. Besides, forgiveness does not compensate for the individual’s actions or behaviours. Instead, forgiveness delivers peace of mind that contributes to progression in life. Based on personal experience, forgiveness is a personal commitment and prioritisation centred around growth as an individual. As a result of forgiveness, we might achieve more peace and gain compassion and understanding.
Forgiveness might even be relevant to ourselves and the times we have caused harm to others, which might even help with forgiving others. The reason behind mentioning self-forgiveness is that we all have done something we are not proud of, and it helps decrease the guilt or shame that we all carry hidden in our luggage. Additionally, self-forgiveness also develops compassion towards ourselves and others, making life more enjoyable and peaceful.
Last, of all, forgiveness is not about the individuals that might have caused harm to us. Instead, forgiveness can be for oneself in order to finally free yourself from hurt, pain, resentment, anger, etc. Forgiveness is there to bring more peace into your life and liberate you from the past! However, you will have to practice forgiveness throughout life because people are not perfect, but you still get to have boundaries.
Eventually, I am going to make a mediation focused on self-forgiveness.
In other words, watch out!